Are You Marketing You or Your Message?

There’s a common misconception, especially among those interested in social media, about content and self-promotion. Some argue that people shouldn’t worry about self-promotion and shouldn’t attempt to promote their commercial activities.

This attitude has prompted some of the thoughtleaders of social media – those who share outstanding content day after day – to constantly defend their own activities that are, or could be perceived as, commercial in nature.

I was excited to see Chris Brogan, Darren Rowse, Brian Clark and Sonia Simone launch Third Tribe yesterday (I joined). I was unhappy to see that Chris included a few paragraphs for the “naysayers” – explaining why he was launching this new venture. Here’s what Chris wrote:

Any time I talk about money, I get a bunch of emails telling me that I’ve jumped the shark or that I’m a sellout. I did when we published Trust Agents. I did when I took my first affiliate ad for Thesis. I’ll just say my part about this up front, and you can blog whatever about it elsewhere.

The reason for building a membership forum site is that we can share information that we use for our businesses. It’s not what we want to post on our blogs. It’s something people are paying to learn and hopefully use for their own business efforts, and because of that, we think it’s of value. Don’t want it? Don’t buy it. I do plenty for free, and that’s still useful, too.

It’s not for everyone. It’s for those who want to step up their online marketing game.

The attitude and rhetoric of the naysayers – especially directed towards people who legitimately share great resources and knowledge – is appalling. The rhetoric – often driven by ignorance and jealousy – has caused much damage. Trust in information from friends and peers has dropped significantly over the past year.

Much of this damage has been caused by confusion over, and misunderstanding of, self-promotion. Everyone, whether they intend to or not, self-promotes.

Let me repeat that: everyone self-promotes.

Whether or not your online (or offline) activities support or are supported by commercial interests, you self-promote. When Marc Cuban writes in his blog, he self-promotes. He may not always intend to do so, but he does self-promote. Every time. So do I, whether I intend so or not. Sharing IS self-promotion.

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Happiness Is Helping

Can you make a difference if you help just one person per day? You bet!

Many of us become involved with efforts to help the environment, cancer research, and numerous other large-scale causes. Those efforts are worthy and important.

Some of us help by donating money. Others help by volunteering their time. At the end of the day, most of us feel happy that we were able to help, in a small way, a worthy cause.

When it comes to small-scale efforts, most of us are less interested. After all, if I can spend 2 hours helping thousands of people, why should I spend 2 hours helping just one person? It’s a fair question and the answer will differ for most people.

As we get ready to start a brand new year, think about how you can help others. Imagine how much good you can do if you help just one person per day. Imagine how much good THEY would do if they too help one person per day.

We should all continue to wake up in the morning with a strong desire to help as many people as we can. We should continue to help protect the environment, promote cancer research, and other large-scale worthy efforts. We should strive to share our knowledge and educate as many people as we can.

But we should also remember when we wake up in the morning that we can help just one person per day. It seems small – just one person – but the effect can be powerful and real.

What can you do to help someone today?

Keep Things In Perspective

It is not unusual to get bent out of shape, become angry, and to express our frustrations when things don’t go as planned. We do this when a potential client doesn’t select us for an assignment, when someone says something negative about us, our companies or people we care about, and in many more situations.

When we are presented with frustrating news and situations, we often forget to keep things in perspective. An incident several months ago reminded me about the importance of perspective.

Due to very heavy snow fall and rain in Chicago, many areas experienced flooding. The neighbors immediately next to our house were out of town – we called them to let them know about the flooding and to see if they had someone check their house. They already knew about the flooding. It turns out that they were visiting the Holocaust Museum in Washington D.C. and just as they had completed their visit, they received a call from their home alarm company reporting about the flooding and letting them know that their basement had more than a foot of standing water.

Our neighbor’s basement was ruined completely, but it paled in comparison to what they saw during their visit to the Holocaust Museum. The news about the flooding certainly wasn’t good, but when put in perspective, it wasn’t much.

I am not suggesting that you ignore frustrating news and situations. But when you presented with such news and situations, keep things in perspective.

Worry About What You Say More Than What Others Say About You

he blogosphere and print media are full of articles about corporations leveraging the Internet, including social networks such as MySpace, Facebook and Twitter (among others), to provide customer service and to manage their online reputations. I recently wrote about “personal brands” and whether people are brands.

We spend far too much time worrying about what others say and write about us and not nearly enough time thinking about what we ourselves say and write. For some, a blog article or post on Twitter is solely a sound-bite to generate controversy and “followers”, with little regard for the impact our words might have on others.

We all become frustrated and angry at one time or another. And there are times when we want nothing more than to demonstrate our mastery of the written word by leaving insulting and negative comments online.

You don’t improve your reputation by lowering the reputation of others. When you direct negative comments or insults to someone, your words impact both their reputation and yours.

Don’t fall prey to the temptation. Follow the examples set by those who understand that “a reputation for a thousand years may depend upon the conduct of a single moment.” [Ernest Bramah - an English author]. Think twice – think three times – before you put your own reputation at risk by attacking someone else.